Law 10

From the 48 Laws of Power

Law 10.

INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND THE UNLUCKY.

In the game of power, the people you associate with are critical. An infector can be recognized by the misfortune they draw on themselves, their turbulent past, a long line of broken relationships, unstable careers, the very
intensity of their emotions, and the force of their character. Gravitate towards prosperous, cheerful, and gregarious people. Never associate with those who share your defects.

Tell me about yourself...

Top 10 Facebook Don'ts

10. “Likers” – you can’t possibly like EVERYthing.

9. Checking in – must you check in (update) everywhere you go? a) that’s just unsafe b) we don’t care…. Which leads me to…

8. Excessive statues updates – in the words of a wise man “nobody’s life changes every 5 minutes.”

7. Stealing quotes. If you find a quote you like...cool. But don’t try to pass it off as your own. We know you. You aren’t that deep. Even if you don’t know who said it… just put it in “ ”.

6. Relationship updates. – If you and your significant other break up and get back together on a regular basis….save us the status update.

5. Thirst. – Seriously people!!! This is not Black Planet or Myspace….stop spamming people’s inboxes with your phone number and some generic come on.

4. Stalking. – I’ve just removed several people from my “friends” list because I KNOW the only reason they friend requested me was to be nosey and see what they could find out about my personal life. Corny. 

3. Made up middle names – "John ImcoolbecauseImadeupanickname Doe".

2. Cryptic status updates (i.e. crying for attention) – Posting something that seems dramatic and personal in a manner that is vague, leading, or easily misunderstood. It’s Facebook. Everybody can see it. Somebody will ask you about it (as evidenced by the 47 comments under the status update).You knew that when you posted it… you just want people to reach out to you to find out what’s going on…. so you can complain that people are always in your business. Your response: “I don’t want to talk about it.” or “It’s private.”…..Yes. So private it needed to be posted on Facebook.

1. “Couple” profile pictures – If you just got engaged or married…that’s one thing… and completely appropriate. Otherwise, this just screams “LOOK! I told you somebody loves me!”

These are my personal pet peeves...don't feel bad if you're guilty of some (or most) of them.

Valentine's Day 2011

Random Thought: I wonder how much of love is a trick of the mind... a mere feat of verbal acrobatics to accommodate people who just happen to cross our path and suit the needs of that particular moment in time....

I promise I won't get on a soapbox....

Throughout the year, I am continually reminded of the needs of the less fortunate. While I respect the large organizations and those who support them; it is important to remember that there are many organizations and causes in your community that get overlooked and ALL contributions help in some way. Your TIME is one of the most valuable things you can give.

Here are just a few of my favorite charities:

 40 Girls & Some Shoes

 http://www.40girlsandsomeshoes.org/

 Blankets of Love 

 http://www.blanketsoflove.org/

Habitat for Humanity

 http://www.habitat.org/  

This Holiday season; let’s go out in our communities and give back…you’ll be glad you did!

The Toddler Laws of Property

I saw this on a kid's t-shirt and HAD to buy it:

Toddler Laws of Property

1. If I like it... it’s mine.
2. If it’s in my hand... it’s mine.
3. If I had it a little while ago... it’s mine.
4. If it looks just like mine... it’s mine.
5. If I think it’s mine... it’s mine.

Interestingly enough...this can also be applied to [some] females. No shade though.

LOVE = LOSS ?

How far can you afford to bend to preserve your relationship? Most relationships require us to bend to a certain extent, but how much can we bend without a loss of self? How far can you go in giving up yourself to avoid losing your partner? How much of yourself can you afford to sacrifice to avoid losing someone you love? 

A truly loving relationship is a relationship where each person accepts and even values the differences between them. If you have to excessively bend your values to preserve the relationship, what are you preserving? You are not preserving a loving relationship since love does not demand that you constantly bend your values. When both partners are open to learning about their differences, those differences become fertile ground for the process of personal and spiritual growth. 

Problems occur when one or both partners are not available for exploration and learning. If one partner says, “Just accept me the way I am,” or gets angry or withdrawn when the other partner attempts to discuss the situation... learning is impossible. Then the other partner either has to acquiesce or leave…not a healthy situation. On the emotional AND spiritual level, you can afford to lose your partner but you cannot afford to lose yourself.

But I digress....