Im Memoriam

In loving memory of the greatest entertainer that ever lived.

Michael Joesph Jackson 

August 29, 1958 - June 25, 2009

"If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with." ~Michael Jackson

Always Compare Apples to....Apples

  Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Some men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but they are easy to get.

The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

~I don't know who wrote this, but I love it.

Law 11

From The 48 Laws of Power...

Law 11

 Learn to Keep People Dependent on You 

To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted.  The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have.  Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear.  Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.

Law 2

From the 48 Laws of Power...

Law 2

Never Put Too Much Trust in Friends, Learn How to Use Enemies

Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy.  They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove.  In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies.  If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

The Right to Remain Silent…?

As I watch “headline” after “headline” regarding this Tiger Woods drama flood every media outlet, I can’t help but feel angry. Not because he [allegedly] cheated on his wife…or behaved recklessly, but because so many people have the audacity to DEMAND answers and/or explanations from him. I support Tiger Woods’ right to plead the 5^th. I don’t need to know. He’s not my husband, so who he sleeps with is none of my business.

“Celebrities live public lives”… Fair enough. “They chose this life”…ok, sure. But there should be some consideration given when celebrities choose to keep certain aspects of their life private. Fame should not require full disclosure. Do we really expect that every actor, athlete, and politician is flawless?

Society tends to place those in the public eye on such a pedestal that the slightest indiscretion could be career-ending. Why is it that we build people up only to watch them fall? With the exception of clergy members, no one should be subjected to such scrutiny of their public and private affairs. We would like to believe that our society values morality and virtue, but this is just not the case. If it were, sex-tapes wouldn’t be making people famous.

As Tiger put it, “Personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn't have to mean public confessions”. Amen to THAT! I’m so sick of all these holier-than-thou speculators and their insatiable need to finger point. The reality is everyone has skeletons… everyone has drama… everyone makes mistakes…we just don’t KNOW about it. Maybe it’s better that way. Committing a crime or breaking the law would warrant a considerable level of scrutiny…and I am not making excuses for anyone, nor am I attempting to justify any wrong doing. But robbing someone of their privacy is also… WRONG.

How would you feel if you had to defend your choices to the entire world in addition to those you hurt? How would you like to have your job threatened because you slept around? Loss of endorsements and termination of contracts are often the consequences celebrities face…and companies will pay nearly any cost in the name of “maintaining image”. What is the image these companies are so desperate to protect? Do we view Nike or Buick as some wholesome entity that employs only the purest of the pure? Not really. Tiger was not offered these deals because he's a good guy...he got them because he's a good GOLFER! What goes on in his personal life shouldn't matter. 

The speculation surrounding Tiger’s situation will continue with or without any input from him. If he does speak out, will he tell the whole story? Probably not. Will anyone believe it? I doubt it. People will still have their opinion…the media will continue to spin a story that sells. Here lies the root of the problem…IT SELLS. There is a huge demand for drama and scandal. Tiger Woods has gotten more hits in the last 2 days than he has in months. We feed off of the transgressions of others because it makes us feel better about our own offenses.

No one, regardless of profession, should have to beg for the privacy to grieve, atone, or recuperate. Who decided that is was appropriate to demand full access into someone’s life simply because of their profession? Vanessa Williams, Bill Clinton, Michael Phelps, and now Tiger Woods…when will it end? Once it spreads to every facet of social interaction? Possibly.

The Truth Hurts... That’s Why People Lie

“Does this make me look fat?”
“Am I the best you ever had?”
   A common misconception is “if you love me, you’ll tell me the truth”. SOMETIMES… the opposite is true. You may be lied to because you are loved (or at least cared about). How would you feel if someone truthfully answered one of the above questions? Do you expect an honest answer when you ask them? If so, I guarantee you will get the most honest answer from a complete stranger who doesn’t give two shits about you. Friends, family, and significant others feel obligated to “spare our feelings”…hence the lie.

   The problem is that society values tact and manners much more than honesty. Tact, by definition is a keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense; skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations. Tact is like morality, it's defined by the person. You would call me rude if I were to say “Yeah…that does make you look fat”. In fact, I’m often called a bitch because I’m brutally honest. I personally believe that you should be most honest with the ones you love and vice versa. But that’s just me. .....I am HONEST…NOT MEAN. The truth does not come wrapped in a bow. The truth can go either way depending on how it is received and it is the receiver’s responsibility to process it.

“It takes two to speak the truth: one to speak, and another to hear.” ~ Henry David Thoreau.

   Sometimes you have to swallow a bitter reality…BUT how many times has each of us received an emotional wound followed by the justification, "I’m only being honest!"? "Honesty". The word has gotten a bad rap as it is often used to rationalize many behaviors that would otherwise not be tolerated. Keep in mind that being mean is to have the intent of malice. If you want to be mean to someone, it takes EFFORT, some put forth more than others. If I were to say to you that I am going to tell you the truth just.........BRACE YOURSELF. Not now or shall I ever hurt anyone’s feelings intentionally. It’s just that honesty is a different aspect of life. If anything, it is done out of respect for myself, but mostly for you. You tell priests the truth, you tell your friends the truth, you tell a judge the truth, you even tell God the truth … and he was there when it happened. The point is that someone in your life has earned the respect of knowing and receiving the truth from you. If you’re not going to do it for them, do it for yourself... cuz telling the truth can feel pretty damn good.

   What is the motivation behind these questions that tend to create such an awkward situation for everyone involved? Who knows? Just be careful not to let the concept of “honesty” be used against you. How? By implying that if you don’t tell all, then you’re being dishonest. It’s always amazing to me how many people struggle with feelings of guilt because they harbor feelings that they haven’t shared. I don’t know how the myth has been propagated but it seems that it’s something of a sin if you haven’t shared all of your feelings. If sharing feelings is being honest, then not sharing your feelings is dishonest, right? Wrong. Not sharing your feelings may be tactful, or considerate, or maybe just plain careful.

   We are social creatures, and seek acceptance in nearly everything we do. It’s normal…it’s ok. BUT… like most things, moderation is imperative. My friends know that to come to me for advice, means you’re going to hear the absolute truth (as I see it). If you are lucky enough to have a friend like me…who will tell you the truth regardless…ask away (just make sure you have your armor on). If you are the least bit apprehensive about asking the question in the first place…chances are you’re hoping to get lied to. Because they have such “good hearts”, most people are happy to oblige. As a FRIEND I believe in honesty, even if it may hurt, because I think "being nice" hurts more in the end and is less than honest. The truth hurts, but in the end...lies hurt more.

“True friends stab you in the front.” ~ Oscar Wilde

“Truth only hurts in proportion to how much you have ignored it.” ~ Me

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This is an art...don't hate.

A striptease is defined as the removal of one's clothing in a suggestive or sensual manner. This in and of itself is far from taboo [in my opinion]. It is very possible for this to be done in a CLASSY manner. Granted, we have come a long way from the harem girls and belly dancers that entertained kings and even influenced political decisions. Now the sweaty, ass clapping, [hardly dancing] "stripper" is the norm. Stripping is an art, and it should be practiced and respected as such. I'm just saying...
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