Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Just Thought I'd Share...


Someone sent me this in one of those [usually] annoying emails:

The Strong Black Woman

While struggling with the reality of being human instead of a myth, the strong black woman passed away.
Medical sources say she died of natural causes, but those who knew her know she died from being silent when she should have been screaming...
Smiling when she should have been raging... 
From being sick and not wanting anyone to know because her pain might inconvenience them.
She died from an overdose of other people clinging to her when she didn't even have energy for herself...
She died from loving men who didn't love themselves and could only offer her a crippled reflection...
She died from raising children alone...
She died from the lies her grandmother told her mother and her mother told her about life, men, and racism...
She died from asphyxiation, from secrets she kept trying to burn away instead of allowing herself the kind of nervous breakdown she was entitled to, but only white girls could afford...
She died from being responsible, because she was the last rung on the ladder; there was no one under her to dump on...

The strong black woman is dead...
She died from being dragged down and sat upon by un-evolved women posing as sisters and friends...
She died from tolerating "Mr. Wrong" just to have a man around the house...
She died from sacrificing herself for everybody and everything when what she really wanted to do was be a singer, dancer, or some magnificent other...
She died from lies of omission because she didn't want to bring the black man down...
She died from the myths that would not allow her to show weakness without being chastised...
She died from hiding her feelings until they became hard and bitter enough to invade her womb and breasts like angry tumors...
She died from never being enough of what men wanted, or being too much for the men she wanted...
She died from being too black and died again for not being black enough...
She died from being misinformed about her mind, her body, and her capabilities...
She died from knees pressed too closely together because respect was never part of the foreplay that was being shoved at her...
And sometimes when she refused to die, when she just refused to give in, she was killed by the lethal images of blonde hair, blue eyes, and flat butts...
Sometimes, she was stomped to death by racism and sexism; executed by hi-tech ignorance while she carried the family in her belly. the community on her head, and the race on her back...
The strong black woman is dead......or is she?

I know I'm not! Pass this on to all the strong black women that you love, respect, and admire. I just did.

~There was no author to credit...but reading this made my day!

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

YIKES!!

Be careful who you share your body with.....you only get one.
This female has full blown AIDS AND Syphilis. She lives in the Detroit area and is infecting men AND women to "get back" at them. Allegedly

She's blind in her right eye, and has lesions on her feet, so she keeps her socks on during sex. ..... she's reading off the names of people that she has infected. 

Monday, January 11, 2010

Law 18


From the 48 Laws of Power...
 Law 18 

Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself - Isolation is Dangerous
  The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves.  A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target.  Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle.  You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Start tearing down those walls folks....at the very least make yourself a window.



Wednesday, January 6, 2010

How to Spot a True Friend



A true friend loves you…
A true friend wants only the best for you…
A true friend will make you a priority NOT an option…

When you see a friend about to make a huge mistake do you attempt to stop them?
Do you tell them that you fear for their happiness?
Or do you bite your tongue and leave them to make that choice because you know they have a lesson to learn?
Will offering unsolicited advice hurt or help?
Will you have the strength to be there when they come to you for support later?

These are the things that keep your true friend awake at night.


Tuesday, January 5, 2010

I'm Tired of Making Lemonade!

Some relationships are a lot like lemons at a car dealership.  
They require some work to get them up and running (but not always smoothly). 
Often the salesperson will fudge the truth or hide a few flaws to close the deal.
Maybe you knew it was a fixer -upper but were willing to invest the time and effort because you saw some sort of potential. 
Initially it feels really good to know that you know exactly what it takes to get the car running. 
You will, of course, get where you want to go.....eventually
But do you really want to have to jump your car every time? 
Hot wiring a car is fun the first few times…but it only works for a little while. 
It's OK for somethings in life to be easy.
Earning something doesn't mean going through hell to get it...and it won't make you any more "deserving" of it.

Besides, sometimes you just wanna hop in and...…. DRIVE.

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Allow Me to Re-Introduce Myself...



I have learned an important lesson….I cannot control my emotions, but I can control my actions.
Internalizing fear, angst, worry, or anxiety for the sake of others is [at first glance] selfless.
In reality this is completely selfish…because it is an attempt to excuse oneself from any blame associated with their discomfort. An implosion is practically inevitable .

Why would you get up the nerve to do something that you subconsciously know will hurt… if you’re not careful?
It is because while in the moment, you feel empowered and un-stifled. 

Some people do it for the rush, for the temporary numbing effect. In some cases…. so that the rejection feels more like "blah" than "ouch"

Simple Physics teaches us that what goes up must come down.
It’s always after all that intensity…that you crash, and you have to figure out...was it worth it?
Was it worth jumping down the rabbit hole?

I’m no victim, I live life, it breaks me and I pull it together. 
I loathe a pity party.

I can’t help who I am. I know my problems, my pet peeves, and my perfect failures. I also know my actions impact my off-spring and those in close proximity to me. But I haven’t served my purpose yet.

Even after taking hits from everyone, and waking up in the morning mentally sore…I own my life, and I am responsible for every action and decision made in it. Regardless of whether I fuck up every day, I must find the strength to own up to it. 

I am myself… even if it hurts.